Mental Aspects

Let's talk about some mental aspects to help you achieve your goals. First thing to remember when just starting out as a beginner....

1. You don't know what you don't know. When starting out on a pre-determined exercise routine, such as P90x, all the details are laid out in front of you. Because you have done it a week, read an article here or there you now think you are qualified to determined if you are smarter than the maker of the pre-determined exercise routine. You haven't even completed anything yet....but yet you are suddenly on your way to becoming the next Tony Horton or Shaun T. Just stick to the routine that is given to you, complete it and then modify and make changes on the next go round. You are not smart enough yet to determine what is and isn't correct, what is and isn't beneficial and what is and isn't going to help you. Sometimes it takes a few weeks or a few months to determine this. This is a big pitfall in achieving your goals. You simply do not know what you do not know yet. The best advice that you most certainly will NOT follow is.....follow the advice of people who have been all the way through it before you, follow the advice of people who know more than you and follow the advice of people who seem to make the most sense.

2. Think POSITIVE. What this means is do not tell yourself, "I do not want to be fat any more". That's negative and keeps you focused on the negative. Instead tell yourself, "I want to be healthy", "I want to be fit", "I want to be in shape". Those are positive things. Tell your self these positive things over and over and over again. You can become, have, be or do anything that you think about the MOST. In order to unlock this door, the key is to believe it. If you simply do not believe it, then it will not happen, if you focus on what you don't want, don't want to happen, worse case scenarios then you will also get that. Why?

1. Because what I said is true. You are thinking about this aspect the most.
2. You are creating a self fulling prophesy.
3. It's easier for you to believe the negative, because that is what most of us have been doing all of our lives.

It's just as easy to create the positive side as it is the negative side.

Start here...

1. Create a goal that you can 100% truly believe will happen. Instead of saying..."I need to lose 80 pounds", instead try something that you can believe in much more such as...."I will lose 10 pounds". Perhaps the thought of losing 80 lbs might sound good to you, but you don't believe it will happen as much as believing you will lose 10 pounds. So create a goal and state of mind that you will believe 100%.

2. To determine if you actually believe it, the thought of it should make you feel good. If you do not feel good about it, then you do not believe it. Go with your feelings. If you feel bored, unmotivated, ect....these are all signs and symptoms that you really do not believe you can achieve your goal. So you will need to modify your goal or your thinking. Make sure you are thinking about the positive instead of the negative. Are you thinking about your lack or are you thinking about what WILL happen? Remember...do NOT think about what you don't want to happen. Think about what WILL happen.

3. You need to think so positive and feel so good about this that you actually believe that you have ALREADY achieved your goal and you are just waiting to receive it in person. It's kind of like Christmas as a kid. You know it's Christmas eve, you know that presents will be under the tree the next day but you just haven't received then yet. Same thing with your goals....you must believe 100%, your thoughts and feelings must be positive and you must get to the point that you have already achieved your goal.

It's just that simple.

Your mind and attitude WILL make or break you. Your determination, your desire, your thoughts, your feelings. All of these are equally as important or even more important that your diet or exercise. What the mind thinks and believes, the body will follow. It has to. That's why the fight or flight response works....first it is set in motion by the mind, your thoughts, your feelings and then the body takes over AUTOMATICALLY. Same thing with achieving your goals. Get your realistic goal set, believe it, think positive about it, this feeling should make you feel good and at a certain point you should actually believe that you have already achieved your goal. Presto...you are 10 pounds lighter. Repeat this over and over again and then down the road you will wake up one day and be 80 pounds lighter, which was what you originally wanted, but didn't really believe could happen.

3. Another important key to this is: DO NOT SET A TIME LIMT ON ACHIEVING YOUR GOAL. For various reasons, this is stupid and self defeating. The people that tell you to set time limits are categorically and 100% wrong. No matter who they are. Don't believe me....it's simple, just try it out and see for your self. If it does not work 100% of the time, then it is wrong. That is just luck.

Do not tell yourself..."I need to lose 80 pounds in 3 months". Your body may not be set up for that kind of weight loss, things may happen in your life that prevents you from working out for about a month or something, sometimes pushing and pressing yourself too hard and too aggressively is exactly what you want just so you can set yourself up to fail on purpose and perpetuate your cycle of being a loser. Strong words? Yes, but also very true. If you purposely set yourself up to fail then what are you? You are a loser. If you set yourself up to win, you are naturally a winner. It's simple logic. Forget....1000% about setting time limits on your goals. The universe, God, Jesus, or whoever knows the perfect timing to give you your wish or prayer, not you. You only think you know.

To achieve your goal...it is just this simple. If it fails, then you are not thinking something correctly. Go back and ask yourself if your thoughts are correct, because if it fails then your thoughts are 100% incorrect.

You have the power to change what ever is in your life or happening in your life because the things that are happening in your life is brought there by you and by how you are feeling. If you are feeling frustrated MOST of the time....doesn't matter about what, you will 1000% bring more people, situations and things into your life that perpetuate that feeling. Get the idea? What you feel and think about MOST of the time is what brings things, people and situations into your life.

Try it out and see for your self. Just remember to follow the steps until you do it subconsciously and it will work 100 percent of the time and heres the best part...it will work for ANY goal you have in life. Want a mate? Set your goal...don't say "I want someone who doesn't smoke, doesn't curse, doesn't do this...doesn't do that..." Why? Because that is focusing on the NEGATIVE. Instead say..."I want a mate who leads a healthy life style, is a hard worker, is understanding" ect...that is focusing on the postive. If you think about how bad of a person your last mate was...guess what? You will attract the same type of person over and over again. Why? Because of the principles I've outlined for you. This is what you think about MOST of the time. The things you DON'T want, instead of the positive things.

Try it out. Remember, if you think it's bullshit, then it is. If you think it's a valuable tool, then it is. YOU are in total control. You are either a winner or loser in life. There is no in between. If you don't care about your health or weight, then it's because you simply do not believe you can change it. I've never seen anyone say..." I want to be fat and sick because it makes me feel good about my self." If you don't care about money, it's because you believe you cannot have more of it. The list goes on and on....Like the diet aspects of my blog I am starting out in this aspect also. How do I know it works? What is the proof? Well, for one thing every single principle is in the Bible. For another....I for one have been thinking the opposite way that I SHOULD have been thinking all my life and that is why I have exactly what I have in my life. You can put positive things, people and situations in your life just as easily as you can the negative things.

Whether you believe these principles or not...it doesn't matter. Just like the law of gravity, these principles do not require belief for them to work. If you don't believe in gravity and you walk off the top of a building you will still plummet to the ground. Same thing with these principles....whether you believe in them or not...they work and are working in your life at this very moment.